YOUNG PARENTSThose Khudam who have kids up to college level may need material to guide them in the aspect of parenthood. The Tarbiyyat department is primarily focusing on the "Young Parents" group. Another aspect being covered here is to get a basic level of understanding for this group in how to better educate them on the raising of their children under Islamic principles in a Western environment.
| Introductory video: |
How did your parents raise you to be a confident Ahmadi Muslim? |
| Did you have any moment defining you as an Ahmadi Muslim? |
What is your advice for young parents raising kids in the US? |
| What do you do if your kids are invited to birthday parties? |
Young kids ask about boyfriends/girlfriends. How do you respond? |
| How do you deal with sleepovers? |
Private School, public school, or Islamic school? |
| What's your advice on raising confident Ahmad children? |
Points on Tarbiyyat of Children
A Summary from Hazrat Musleh Maud’s (ra) book Min Haj-ut-Talibeen
1. Upon birth give Azaan in the right ear and Takbeer in the left ear.
2. Keep children clean. The external cleanliness has an impact on the mind.
3. Fix feeding times. This instills good habits at an early age.
4. Start toilet training early - try to set a regular pattern for their call of nature.
5. Feed fix portions at meal times, neither giving too much nor too little.
6. Vary the diet, giving more vegetables then meat.
7. As soon as the child grows, give it simple tasks – bring that here or put this there etc.
8. Encourage the habit of self control; do not hide items but train them not to touch or take items without permission.
9. Do not spoil children with too much love.
10. If the child is not able to eat something for some reason, the family should also not eat that. The child learns from your self-sacrifice.
11. During a child’s illness give careful attention, taking care not to spoil the child.
12. Tell children stories – but refrain from telling them horror stories.
13. Choose well mannered friends for the child. Good friends have a good effect, bad friends have bad effect.
14. Give children responsibility according to their age and understanding. This will instil confidence later in life.
15. Constantly remind children of their positive attributes.
16. Control an irritable child with wisdom, for example, by diverting its attention to other things.
17. Address children with respect. This will return respect to you and other elders.
18. Keep children away from the habit of lying, being proud, or becoming an introvert. Do this by setting a personal example
19. Keep children away from intoxicants – example tea
20. Discourage children from playing alone.
21. Do not let children remain naked.
22. Train children to admit their mistakes. Be sympathetic and on not reprimand them in front of others.
23. Give children pocket money. This will teach children responsibility and a sense of ownership.
24. Children should be taught to share their toys with others.
25. Teaching of good etiquette should be on going.
26. Keep an eye on their health. Ensure they are getting enough physical exercise.
Above few hints on the moral education and training of the child are further elaborated in the website link given below. Additionally these topics are covered in systematic manner as well in the same website link:
1- What characteristics a child should possess to be considered morally educated.
2. How can it be determined whether a child sizes up to the right standard in each of these characteristics?
3- After the moral education of a child, the question arises: How can it be safeguarded against sin?
http://www.alislam.org/books/seekers/contents.htm
Other Useful Links
http://tarbiyyat.org/
> Why Am I an Ahmadi Muslim?
Shows, Q&A
http://www.askislam.org/
> Society > Children
> Practices
http://www.youtube.com/mtaonline1
> Real Talk
> Faith Matters
http://www.alislam.org/v/k-Children.html
http://www.alislam.org/v/
Books
Hazrat Musleh Maud’s (ra) book Min Haj-ut-Talibeen
http://www.alislam.org/urdu/au/?j=9
Way of the Seekers
http://www.alislam.org/books/seekers/contents.htm
> Moral Training of the Child
Points to Ponder
http://www.alislam.org/library/books/Points-to-Ponder.pdf
Other Children's Books
http://store.alislam.org/childrenbooks.html
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